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Watching Stella Get Her Groove Back

I love seeing women get their spark back. I think it’s refreshing and inspiring. This isn’t so much about breakups—whatever the catalyst may be, I think coming back home to yourself is a beautiful thing. That radiance cannot be replicated, nor can that sense of self when you’re just so at peace. When you start doing the things you love again, when you step back out into the world after being isolated, when you embrace the things that are undeniably you—it brings me so much joy.


I’m surrounded by beautiful women, and sure, life gets them down in the dumps sometimes. But then, after a while—maybe after not seeing them for some time—and we catch up? Man. 


The glow? Something about the way they carry themselves and smile has a Venusian feel to it.


There’s something sacred about a woman coming into her own. When she stops looking for validation outside of herself and instead finds it within. When she realizes she doesn’t need to shrink to be loved, to be chosen, or to belong. When she reclaims her softness without seeing it as weakness and steps into her power without feeling the need to prove it. It’s a quiet kind of confidence, one that doesn’t beg for attention but commands it effortlessly. How sexy is that? 


It’s in the way she sets boundaries without guilt, in the way she moves through the world knowing she is deserving of all the good things coming her way. It’s in how she honors her joy, prioritizes her peace, and embraces the fullness of who she is. Ugh! 


Women coming into their own is one of the most beautiful transformations to witness. And if you’ve ever seen it—really seen it—you know exactly what I mean. 


Happy Women’s Month y’all! 

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